Reminder: If you have a reality show, you probably will end up divorced

For those of you who didn't watch, Jon and Kate basically said on tonight's show that their marriage is falling apart and they don't expect it to last. It sounds as if they are just holding out (for another season perhaps???) to head to the divorce lawyers.

I start this post by saying that no one really knows what happens in a marriage except the two people in it. But if you are going to air your dirty laundry on national television, then yeah, we're going to judge. Maybe John cheated, maybe not. I can't say how I'd feel in Kate's position if he did cheat. But either way, the relationship started crumbling before the issues came up in the tabloids and here's what I would say to them if I could.

Look at the faces of your sweet children. They missed their dad while he was "away" during today's episode. How can you not even work on your marriage knowing that divorce is going to mean keeping your kids away from one of their parents? When I see my husband and my daughter together I can not imagine keeping her from him. The problem with these two is so crystal clear to me (and to most of America I think) but it isn't to them. QUIT THE SHOW. Give up the mansion that TLC bought, go back to work. Give up the cars, the baby-sitters, the fancy vacations and the once-in-a-lifetime experiences. Because they may have been fun, but they didn't keep you together as a family. And they didn't make you happy. Kate, you look ridiculously over-styled. You are not a Hollywood actress, you are a MOM in Central Pennsylvania. Get over yourself. Be who you are.

They sat so far away from each other on the couch during the interviews. Their interactions during the kids' birthday party were so strained. It is obvious that the kids, especially the older girls, know that something is up. I saw a reporter/expert/commentator on GMA the other morning talking about how sad it is that these children are going to have the demise of their parents' marriage caught on tape.

I know that divorce happens and that people change and grow apart, etc. But here is an example of a perfectly happy family that is thrown into the limelight and the parents begin to lose sight of what is important. I read a comment from Jon somewhere that he misses his privacy but the house and the cars and the money are all so nice. SO WHAT'S THE POINT IF YOU DON'T HAVE YOUR FAMILY??? What good is all that shit if you are alone and missing your wife and children?? Neither one of them has said anything about seeing a counselor or taking a break or actually working on their marriage. Whatever has happened to break down their marriage is in the past and they make no indication they want to work on it. To me, that is the saddest part of it all. Even if he cheated - go to a counselor, figure out why it happened and work on it before you call it quits.

I am so upset about this I've been crying all night. I want nothing more in life than to be with my husband and child. They are all I need in this world. I wish everyone could have the happiness I have with my sweet little family.

And I feel so bad for the Gosselin children who likely have a lot of painful times ahead of them. I don't think I will be watching the show anymore.

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